Our Miracle Marriage
Rob and I got married when we were young. We were 19 years old and by the age of 23 had both of our sons (including my 6-year-old daughter from a previous relationship). At the time, Rob was a functioning alcoholic who was unaffectionate and unemotional. We had little to no communication and because of this, I was emotionally and physically deprived… which was no excuse to have an affair. But, I did.
I walked away from my marriage. I allowed myself to be influenced by others who told me to be selfish and go after my own happiness because if I wasn’t happy, then no one would be happy, including my kids. Which I know now was just a lie straight from the enemy. I felt lonely, unattractive, depressed, and ultimately unwanted. This led to divorce.
I married the man that I had an affair with and had everything that I thought that I had wanted. I had a beautiful house and a man who treated me like a queen. I thought that I had happiness. Until the day that I realized how selfish I was being. My kids were having to pack up their stuff every other weekend and having to share every holiday and birthday. That day was when I knew that I had received everything that I had wanted, but what about them? I felt that I was stuck and there was nothing that I could do, so I just had to deal with it.
Six years later I went to my first women’s bible study; A Woman After God’s Heart by Elizabeth George. I was convicted and realized that I couldn’t be the wife that God had called me to be to the man who I was married to at the time. At that moment, I realized why God hated divorce and how it splintered my family tree. Two weeks into the study, I dropped to my knees and I surrendered and asked God to guide me. Never in a million years did I think it would drag me back to the father of my kids, but I was obedient. I thought I was going crazy because Robert was still everything that he was when I had left. He was still an unaffectionate, unemotional, functioning alcoholic. But, God had a different plan and it was to do some deep inner healing. When I said yes to God and allowed Him to move, He went to work. Not just in Robert, but in me.
When the inner healing began that was when true restoration was able to take place in our family and sever the enemy's plan to splinter our family tree forever. Breaking our generational curse of divorce. Today, being able to look back at everything, I can truly say that this was God’s will all along. Back then, I had stepped out of God’s plan and went after what everyone else was telling me to do. Now, I am able to see the fruits that we have been able to bear because we said yes to God and surrendered our all. We allowed him to guide us and because of this, WE get to see our children chase after God’s heart in everything that they do.
My name is Martha Godinez, I am married, have 4 beautiful children (2 sons, 2 girls) and 3 Adorable grandchildren. My husband Robert and I have been married 21 years with a 12 year break in between.
I have my own business in the financial services industry, my husband is a heavy machine operator. We love spending time with our family but have made it our mission to help broken marriages find their way back. We know that God is a God of restoration and as long as we are willing to surrender EVERYTHING to HIM, He will deliver.
We love encouraging others by sharing our story of restoration. I pray that a part of our journey will give someone hope and inspire them to at least TRY!
You can connect with me on Instagram @4mgodinez